State: unaltered

Yesterday was Friday, so the family came to have lunch. I prepared a BBQ and invited Gaby the neighbor and her cousin who is visiting. We had a nice pleasant lunch, and when they left Gaby came back with some excuse and then started spewing negative things about her cousin. Most complaints seem innocuous, like her cousin is cooking all day, that she can’t see her TV show, that the house is a disaster with the visitors (it is worse when she doesn’t have visitors). I listened to all her complaints and I wondered what to do: to give her empathy, to give her compassion, to give her rejection, to give her guidance. I just listened and supported her points when they made sense (for she was complaining about a lot of things which didn’t seem to merit a second thought even: that her cousin had made a huge souffle).

The way in which I “calm myself down” when I’m weary of visitors or whatever stressor is to focus on the finitude of the situation, and I dialogue with myself to find the positive angle of the situation, but when I present this dialogue to someone who is angry or stressed or whatever, they don’t seem to want to cool down, they seem to want to incense themselves and that you burn in anger with them. Is this empathy? or is it just burning because the person next to you is burning?

Vibrate with the energy that people present to you is something I wanted to try beginning October, and the thing that I want to resolve is this question: “Should I vibrate with negative energy?”, and the answer that I present to myself, as I write this question, is that I have always vibrated with my own energy. It doesn’t matter much to me that the other person is amused, happy, angry, sad, etc because I… I could come up with a ton of reasons, let us just say that—since I have practiced emotional independence all my life, the way of learning would be to open up and vibrate with whatever energy is present as a form of empathy.

Then, after getting sad, angry or depressed in solidarity with another person—if I am able to accomplish this—I will see the results of my actions.