State: unaltered

Yesterday Oscar came for dinner. I served a massive plate of spaghetti with high-protein bolognese. I was amazed that he could finish the plate. After dinner we walked around the neighborhood with Nina. Oscar was very excited because he was about to meet a woman that would give him sex, assuredly.

As he was utterly unable to contain his excitement, and from his energy I knew he wouldn’t get laid (it was not clear to me if the arrangement was paid, or simply a date that someone hooked up Oscar with, but I doubt it). So I told him “Oscar, you got to dial down your energy, when you are sorely lacking sex, you frighten it away by wanting it at any cost”.

He looked at me quizically, and I tried to frame the problem in a way that he would understand. “Do you know the law of attraction” I asked him. “No”. “Well, the law of attraction states that you will attract more of what you already have, and you will scare away that which you lack most”.

“Have you ever had a girlfriend and suddenly all the girls start looking at you?, well, that is the law of attraction at work. When you are desperate for money, for sex, for friends, that’s the toughest moment to get ahold of it, because of the “law of attraction”.

I felt kinda bad about taking a shortcut to explain something which requires more nuance, I’m actually sick about hearing the gross oversimplication of this spiritual phenomena, which is terribly labeled as a “law”. I would call it a universal tendency, or even a bias, as the things that we want the most never seem to be satisfied. If we get what we want, we will want more.

After Moisés came Oscar seems to be another person. He is ecstatic that a friendship is developing between us, and this makes me a little bit hesitant. This in itself is the law of attraction: the fact that he needs a friend so badly makes me want to withdraw my friendship, because I don’t want dependencies in my life. I help in what I can help, but people cannot expect to depend on me, at least not yet.